We will live another day!

I think I just set a new record for myself with this near hopeless attempt to keep a blog. I guess bottom line is... I just find it so difficult to "journalise" my thoughts and actions!

Well, then of course, there is that thing about only posting a blog post when I have something truly inspirational to say. I am my own worst reviewer, and hardly anything is interesting or inspirational enough as it seems.

But a couple days ago, when I was facilitating a strategy session, I had this "Oh" moment. Many things that had happened over the past few months just came together. Mind you, it was not an "Ah ha" moment, just a simple "Oh" moment.

So what happened and what conclusion did I arrive at?

First, people were dying everywhere (OK, hold your comment!) Young, old, healthy, not so healthy.

Second, as part of what I do with companies (helping them set a goal, map out the journey and help them steer), I realised that 99.9% of companies always think they have time to change...

Finally, in the strategy session I facilitated, I was overwhelmed by how much people had to say, wanted to say, wanted to be listened to, and wanted change.

So putting this all together, the question really is, can we really afford to take the attitude "We will live another day?" Surely not.

There is a saying that, only at the edge of the precipice will change really happen. Yes, that is the last step before the fall, and out of urgency, desperation, or really lack of alternatives, we have to change, we have to ACT.

But unfortunately for many of us, we walk blindly so much so that we don't know we have actually reached the edge of the precipice and as such, continue taking the next aimless step, the next deadly step!

So, I say, do not wait for till you are at the edge of the precipice, because you might not know you are at the edge, do not wait for the "ah ha" moment before you do something. Say what you want to say (regardless of how inspirational, or not, it is, do what you want to do, change what you think needs changing. And do not wait.

"If you think you are too small to be effective, you have never been in bed with a mosquito." 
~Betty Reese

Have fun defining your reality!

Do You Even Know When Your Customers Go Away with A Bitter Aftertaste?

Hi all,

We talk so much about service - customer service, sales service, after sales service. In Singapore where I call home, the big buzz word is innovation to increase productivity, and the service sector is an area which is being really looked at... basically, we need to up our customer service... we are told.

I agree.

But, wait first. What IS customer service. I am not going to rattle off a whole string of definitions from marketing or management gurus... I will leave you to do your own research. However, from my experience of what people focus on in training sessions, I think these are some of the key ideas when people refer to customer service:
- pleasantness (greeting customers with a cheery disposition, having a big smile on your face, never ever raise your voice)
- good product knowledge
- good grooming
- attentive


I had two very recent dining occasions. Both left me with indigestion.. not from the food, but from really really sad service.

To me, having a positive experience as a customer simply means " I go away feeling like I was listened too, they didn't think I was a dope whom they could try to push away with idiotic explanations, they weren't just interested in taking my money but actually had pride in what they were selling, and they bent backwards for me and made me feel special".

Let me use my two horrid experiences to test what I have just said and to show how customer service training is just not focusing on the right things and why I went away feeling the way I did.

First dining experience.
Setting: Local food, nice cafe-like setting, suburban mall.
Situation: My husband and I were looking for a place to have a nice, simple lunch. Walked past this cafe - recently opened and we had mentioned several times that we should try it.

We stopped by to look at the menu and the gentleman who was standing by invited us in. Pleasant, not pushy... nice enough.

We decided to try out the place.

We ordered... to a rather "stone-faced" young man.. obviously a temp. Gave him chance.
We waited for our food... first dish came after about 7 min or so. Not bad timing, not bad food.
We waited..nibbled at the food but waited for the rest of the dishes (forget to say we had ordered dishes which, as local food goes, is shared)
We waited... Vegetable dish came after another 5 min. Not bad food. Timing started to irritate us.
We waited.. one more dish to go... Waited another 5 min. Nothing. Called the "stone-faced" waiter to check on our order. He asked us what dish we were still waiting for (the place was not that crowded, for pete's sake, and he can't check for himself as the bill was already placed on our table and so were two out of the three dishes!!) We sweetly told him. Saw him walk to the kitchen to check. Turned back. Stopped in the middle of the restaurant, stood there, almost on attention, still stone-faced.
HUH? Isn't he going to report to us his "findings". I looked at him with ever so slight irritation in my face and voice. "So? Is it coming?". "Yes" with a nod. No more from "stone-faced".
Last dish came. Disaster. Worst omelette I have ever tasted. Uncooked? Dish came with rice. Looked like they had dropped th plate of rice, and just scraped it back onto the plate.

With still an ever so slight irritation in my face and voice, I ask the manager (the one who had managed to lure us suckers in) "Is this how you normally serve the rice". He looked at it and said "Normally, we inverted it from a bowl" (basically it should come in a nice round heap). He continues (he should have known when to stop) "it must have moved as they carried the plate". The person that lured us in had suddenly changed to someone who didn't care about us anymore now that he had got us in and given us the bill.

I stared.
My husband stared.

He says "I will change it".

Assessment:
Listened to... NO. If "stone-faced" really had any sense, he would have "listened" that my asking if the food was coming required him to give me an answer.
They thought I was a dope... They sure did. What kind of reply was "the rice must have moved..."!!
Interested in just taking my money... The bill was placed on our table 3o sec after the order had been taken.
Bent backwards for me and made me feel special... Obviously not!


Second dining experience.
Setting: Singapore's iconic hotel.
Situation: Had voucher to complimentary dinner for two. Voucher expiring soon. We live by the seat of our pants and decided that same evening to go there for dinner. Called restaurant reservations tel number of the hotel. Got "All our operators are busy at the moment, your call is important to us, please wait and we will attend to you shortly" for about half hour. No human came on.
It was tuesday night... surely the place would not be full. We drove there.
Place was not full - perhaps half. Dinner was buffet.
Lady at the front of restaurant greets us ever so sweetly. I state up front that I would like to use the voucher and to confirm it is not a black-out day.
She asks if I have a reservation. I said no.
She says "we are full. You need a reservation in advance if you want to use the voucher."
I looked at the restaurant and back at her. "You are not full". I say.
She then explains there is a daily quota of people they let in with the vouchers. Quota met for the day.
She then asks me if I would like to make a reservation with her to come back another day.
I explain to her the situation - I tried to call to make a reservation... no answer. I drove all the way here, the place is not full, we are celebrating my birthday and our anniversary, please could she make an exception.
NO, NO, NO... on and on about the same thing.

I say firmly. "If I had been able to get a voice on the other end, I would have known the place was "full" and I would not drive all the way here".

She asked what number I called (What goes through my mind...she didn't believe me that I had tried to call!! She is implying I am a lier!). I should her my last dialled number on my mobile.

She said it was the reservations number. YES I KNOW!!

She asked me what time I called. I said this evening. She says I need to make a reservations 2 days in advance. I tell her the point is not what time I called, but had I been able to get someone to pick up the call, I would have known not to waste me time to come, but since I am down, WON"T YOU PLEASE LET ME HAVE A TABLE!!!"

She asks me to wait a while. I thought she was going to check with her manager. No... she fiddled about the computer, came back to me 30 sec later and said "Let me show you to your table".

SO, YOU COULD MAKE THE DECISION TO LET ME IN OR NOT AND YOU TRIED TO SEE IF I WOULD JUST TURN AWAY WITH YOUR QUOTA EXPLANATION!!!!

Do I need to go through the assessment for this one?

Organisations are starting to "empower" their front line staff with decisions they can make on their own. I just wish someone would "embrain" them or tell them they do not need to go through every stage of the manual which probably reads "First, explain to the customer nicely that he needs a reservation. If the customer still insists, offer to take a reservation for another day. After that....." It's like she was going through the steps in her head and repeating it to me like in a role play. GOOD GRIEF!!!

Couldn't she have said at the beginning "We normally ask our customers to book 2 days in advance because unfortunately we have a quota on vouchers used per night. We have reached that quota today, but since you have come all the day here, and you did say you are celebrating your birthday and anniversay, I simply MUST find a table somewhere for you."

Wow, that would have been so special! For her, the restaurant and the hotel, it was the same ending - I got the table... but what a special memorable moment that would have been and I would, instead of writing this blog, sending out a complaint letter tomorrow and telling every person i am in contact with for the next 10 days how horrible this hotel's service is, I would be doing all that, but raving about the experience.

So, CEOs, managers, HR people, please train right.
It's really not the employees, it is the standard YOU set.

Till next time

Happy defining your reality!

june





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Creativity Put to Work

Oops... I missed Feb and March.

Let's just say I gave myself an extended Christmas break which covered Easter as well.

I am involved in several projects lately and have made certain observations. I want to cover one that is common to all the organisations I am invovled in... and that is creativity.

Creativity is not a problem, most of the time. Most organisations and their people are not short of ideas... what they lack is the people to transform the ideas to something tangible, to realise these ideas, and to ensure there is "system in the ideas" and that "there are ideas in the system".

hmmm.... defining reality works here too!

What I am proposing today is that creativity is like..... well, I guess like a breeze! It is refreshing and gives you new energy and revitalises you. It blows one way or another and is refreshing when it brushes against your face. But when it gets a little stronger, it can mess up your hair, and your lawn because you have to sweep up the additional leaves that it has blown down. But if you put it to good use... if you HARNESS it.... it will be very powerful and can allow you to do other things... generate electricity, for example.

Applying it to business then...

From a business organisational perspective, creativity and a spirit of innovation are essential to ensure that an organisation stays competitive and ahead of the curve. But it must exist within a framework for the business organisation to have long term sustainability and success. This framework covers business ideas, goals, method of achieving the goals and procedures for repeating this winning formula a million times over.

People can exercise their creativity in many many ways in an organisation - from something as big as developing new business ideas and products, to something as small as (but not any less critical) creative ways of maximising sales leads.

But if there is no system in place, and no person or people to manage that system, that refreshing breeze will just become hot air!

Till the next blog...

Have fun defining your reality!

Convision... what??!!!

Happy New Year! Here's wishing everyone a year full of good food, good fun and good friends!

Thanks Kelvin for alerting me to the fact that I have a blog!

I have been doing some research, talking to people... about work, business, life and living. Alot to talk about, I know, and alot to think about as well.

Of the many conclusions I have arrived at in regard to what differentiates leaders from non-leaders is one I want to mention today... CONVISION, that is, the vision to have confidence and confidence to have a vision.

What do I mean by "vision to have confidence"? Well, many people hide behind the present and the past because, simply, that is what they are familiar with, what they are comfortable with. What if people laugh at my vision, what if people think I am arrogant to have a vision, what if the vision can't be realised, what if ... what if... what if...! Enough already.

I am sure if I sat a group of people down in a game and made them think of all the wonderful, unbelievable, whacky things they would like their company to become, they would generate great ideas that could become successful realities. Why? Because they know that it is a game and their ideas would not leak out from the four walls of the room we are in.

But I tell you, try this on your own for a few minutes a day. Build that confidence on your own. You will feel liberated, and if an idea comes up enough times in the various "wild, whacky moments", believe me... you will start saying to yourself "Hmmm... why not!" You will start to have the vision of yourself as a confident leader. That is the "vision to have confidence" part achieved.

What about "confidence to have a vision"? Well that comes naturally after you have achieved the first stage. Once you can visualise (vision... visualise... see where I am coming from and getting at?) yourself as a confident leader, you will act confidently and you will start questioning the status quo rather than trying to find ways to fit into the status quo.... you are on the way to create your own vision.

You will start to define your reality!!

Then there's other characteristics of a leader... exuberance, sparkle, doggedness... but that's for another blog...


So start defining your reality today!

Have fun

June

The Power of Power

Sorry all, it's been more than a month since my last post. It has been a whirlwind month, to say the least. Every post covers a new area of learning for me, so you must be thinking that with so many things I have been learning this past year, what did I start with in the first place?!! Scary.

Actually, quite invigorating to know that there is just so much more out there to learn that you can't possibly get bored. I think out of the several wow moments I have had the past month, I will share with you my observations about the power of power.

What is that!!!

Power of power is what people can do together as a team, and as individuals when they are given the opportunity and power to apply their passion.

I just came back from Club Med. My sister had to drag me there kicking and screaming (it was meant to be my Christmas present). There are two things I have always said I would never be caught dead at - one is a cruise ship and the other is Club Med. You see, I hate confined places, I hate being sociable while on a holiday, I hate "ra ra" things, and I hate to be told what to do. To me, being on a cruise ship and Club Med are all these things.

Anyway, I went.
And... I thoroughly enjoyed myself and even found management applications to share with all of you.

Wouldn't you just love to know how I became a Club Med convert! It was simply the customer friendship that Club Med is all about... not customer service, not customer care, but customer friendship.

What I found in the Club Med team of GOs (Gentile Organisers for those unfamiliar with Club Med jargon) was a team who love what they do and enjoy every moment of it. They were spontaneous, they were organised. They listened, they talked. They partied and showed you how easy it was to have a good time. They did everything to ensure that their customers had a good time. There were certain mishaps that threw off their schedules and planned events, but they quickly found alternative ways of entertaining and not one of them even mentioned the mishap or sought sympathy for it. They sang as one.

I am quite convinced that their job description has just one sentence "Do anything you need to do to make sure your guests feel like family and that you have fun while at it".

And this is what we should be telling our teams in the organisations we work in and let them get on with it. As a leader, our role is to provide a vision, a direction, a method and to walk the talk. Our role is also to pass the power you have as a leader to your team and let them fly. Power releases passion and energy in individuals and team power is positively explosive. Holding back power on the other hand sucks out the passion and energy in individuals and turns them indifferent robots... really!... and you don't want that for sure.

I went to Club Med ready to sulk and scowl at the staff there. I went away with hugs not from the staff, gosh no they are not staff anymore as far as I was concerned, but from a bunch of enthusiastic, passionate and just simply lovely and gentile people!

Just as I closed this post, I decided to google "Club Med" and found that their new signature tagline is "Club Med - Where Happiness Means the World". It really describes what I have just been writing. Wow!

Grow, but not at the expense of HEART and MIND

The discovering never stops.
I have met so many new people these past months and shared ideas with them, broke bread with them, learnt from them, and hopefully, taught them as well.

I have seen how opening my eyes, ears and mind to everything resulted in my heart opening up too.
I have seen how responding to others made others more responsive to me.
I have seen how, by letting go, I gained more in ways I never even imagined.
I have, I think...I hope...become a more complete person.

So what am I trying to get at?
Simply, as business or organisational leaders or participants, remember this:
It is very easy, as you develop your career, grow in wealth and status, you do so at the expense of your heart and mind... Unfortunately for some reason, they move in opposite directions for most of us... as you grow in material success, what shrinks in tandem is your heart and your mind... the seemingly "immaterial" things!

But the irony of it is that the "immaterial heart and mind" are not immaterial at all but so critical to being truly successful... as a person... as a human being.

So keep growing, but please... not at the expense of your heart and mind.

Until next time,

Enjoy defining your reality. Make it happen!

June

The Mighty Milestones

I lost the post I was drafting. C’est la vie!
Here I go again. It’s not going to come out the same but let’s surprise myself.

Milestones are important. I know. I definitely know.

I am blessed with having absolutely no sense of direction at all. The only way I get from Point A to Point B is thanks to my mighty milestones. Everywhere I go, I look out for buildings, signs, anything at all that can be my landmarks – my milestones to pace my journey. I do quite well… mostly.

… which leads me to a story.

In one of my past lives, I used to travel to Bangkok more often than I visit the supermarket back home. Very mindful of not troubling my colleagues to ferry me to and from the office, I say “Just show me the way once, and I can direct the cab and meet you at the office”. Very quietly in the car during the “show me the way” stage, I would note all that past me by, always on the look out for something that I could use as a landmark, my milestone that said "I have reached this far", "I am going in the right direction", "I have that much more to go". Along the Bangkok highway, the easiest landmarks were the billboards, so many of the billboards became my guides.

So armed with my milestones, I would confidently make my way to the office every day... until one day.

That was the day I lost my "Blue Lagoon" billboard.

I was half dreaming in the cab when suddenly I realised I hadn't seen my "Blue Lagoon" with the picture of a happy couple hand in hand running along a beach of sorts. Where was it? Had I past it? Is it round the corner? Panic came in fast and furiously.

In the past, I ignored all other signs, buildings, other billboards and only looked for the milestones I had selected. I guess I did it on purpose so that I would not get distracted or perhaps it was because I felt that since I already had my milestones, I did not have to bother with anything else.

Now, in searching of my missing "Blue Lagoon" (what was Blue Lagoon anyway? I couldn't even remember what they were advertising for, so much for the power of advertising, but that is for another day), I looked at every other billboard trying hard to remember if they came before or after my "Blue Lagoon".

That was when I spotted a billboard publicising an upcoming Franchise Fair. Even in the midst of my panic-stricten state, I managed to jot down the details of the Fair, after which I proceeded to continue to look for my milestones.

To cut a long story short, I eventually found my way to the office (how I am not quite sure)... and where did my "Blue Lagoon" go? Apparently, the contract had expired, and the space was replaced by another advertisement.


More important, I attended the Franchise Fair, met many interesting people and gathered really interesting ideas.


Moral of the story? Milestones are mighty. They are mighty because they help pace your journey. They give you the energy and confidence you need to carry on to achieve your goal. Milestones are mighty. They are mighty deceiving and dangerous if you do nothing but plaster your eyes on them and on nothing else.

So now, I still select my milestones, but along the way, as I look out for my milestones, I also make sure I look around and enjoy the Bangkok skyline, and look out for anything that catches my eye..

I trust I can leave it to you to make the leap from my almost laughable experience to you, your business and life in general.

Till next blog,

Enjoy defining your reality. Make it happen!

June